An Ode to Self Love

I had my very first photo shoot with the incredibly creative photographer, Sarah White for Fotos for Barcelona. She captured candid moments of me, and helped me feel like a natural in front of the camera, even when I was in my boxers, trying to look sexy, but feeling awkward. Sweetness was also there to offer support with wardrobe and creative needs. Sarah and Sweetness would offer clever ways of posing for a desired effect, which was helpful.


This year I committed to self-love by getting in touch with my authentic well-being and happiness. This required me to be mindful of what I think, feel and want from my own life. This year, I embarked on a journey of being visible as an out queer African, a mama, and someone who truly loves and nourishes the body they’re in. This requires daily practices of encouraging inner dialogue, and the therapy of working out.

For years, I have been questioning my purpose. In the last year, I vowed to love all aspects of me and surround myself in reflections of love. I am doing everything that lights my fire and embracing the things that make me different. Boi Mama King is me having fun and inviting you to come on this journey of self discovery with me.

This shoot was my opportunity to play with my sexiness as masculine of center. I do not think I would have posed in my boxers in my twenties. At 45 years old, I am finally giving myself permission to be sexually free. Too often we fail to celebrate our sexy as masculine of center presenting. This is me encouraging all MOC’s to flaunt your stuff and be proud of it, loving your self along the way. Watch out next time you might see me in my birthday suit.




won’t you celebrate with me
what i have shaped into
a kind of life? i had no model.
born in babylon
both nonwhite and woman
what did i see to be except myself?
i made it up here on this bridge between
starshine and clay,
my one hand holding tight
my other hand; come celebrate
with me that everyday
something has tried to kill me
and has failed.

-Lucille Clifton

Here is to acceptance of self,


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